As long as people have been together, people have been unfaithful. It is neither new or about to go anywhere any time soon.
After watching this talk, it made me think about my own perceptions about infidelity and where it might be heading.
And upon watching the show Westworld, it made me ponder even deeper where the line is drawn between fidelity and infidelity.
60 years ago, you could just tell by the fluctuations in your loved ones behavior to what extent their affections were somewehere else. A napkin, a lipstick on a collar, a fleeing smile for no reason.
Today, a phone left on a counter and a curious spouse can reveal a life time of deciet in one flow of messages.
At the rise of the 90's and the 00's we had to define infidelity in a new way. Emotional cheating and digital infidelity in form of videos and texting entered the market along with growing internet use.. We are coming closer to desciphering both within our selves and in our different communities what we think is ok, and not ok in a relationship. when it comes to online flirtations, even if we draw the lines very differently in each relationship.
But technology is moving fast. Very fast. And already now, we are having to descipher where the line of infidelity begins and ends. And just like with all things, there is no easy or correct answer.
To start off with, just like the show Westworld potrays, in time we will have Androids with very real and impactful cognitive processing. They will undoubtedly be used for pleasure. Let us say a man visits Westworld and sleeps with an Android. Was he unfaithful or did he just use a more advanced sex toy? What if his wife at home, has spent a romantic evening on the computer chatting to an AI program with a handsome avatar and then used a vibrator controlled by the AI. Was she less unfaithful, or more because there were feelings involved. The movie HER depicts a very realistic take on the problem of loneliness and the comforting voice of an AI that undoubtedly migh make us fall in love. Heck, there are times when I envy Siri, because she is more entrusted with my husband's eitinerery than I am!
Now you might say, that is 60 years ahead of time.
So let us talk about something a little closer to our time frame. What about teledildonics? What if your spouse uses a vibrator controlled by a stranger on the internet? Did she cheat?
What if you had sensory underwear and met with a stranger online, which could give sensory outputs through your underwear. Are you just enjoying an advanced pleasure stimulus or are you in a virtual reality affair?
And what if you're in a long distance realtionship, and the sensory output underwear is used by your boyfirends best friend instead of him without you knowing, is that punishable? Will it be?
It might be strange things to ponder over, but in a world where we're constatnly evolving the morals we choose to follow, we have to, if not on a communal level, amongst ourselves, discuss the legal and emotional pros and cons of what is to come . We are entering an area of 50 shades of gray, and I don't mean the poorly written sex novel, I mean the spectrum of the lines we will draw.
It is exciting. And I can't wait to see where we land on this issue., because I have absolutley no idea what I think and feel yet. Where do you draw the line?