I know this is going to be the most unpopular blog post I'll probably ever make but the ending to HIMYM made me very happy. Which I couldn't admit to unhappy friends and tagged along in their angry rants, but smirked deep inside.
It was everything I ever wanted.
Now before you throw digital rocks at me, let me explain.
The show isn't named "how I lived happily ever after with your mother". It isn't even titled "how I fell in love with your mother". It clearly tells us, even in the title, that Ted and the mother, meet. That the their children are there to hear the story of their meeting. And already after episode five, you start wondering, at least I did. what kind of man tells his kids so candidly about another woman and how he loved her? Is the mother dead? Or are they having a rough patch? Either way, the kids are way too comfortable hearing about their father's love interest. But let's get back to that later.
So, the series chronicles the lives of five very different people who during the course of the show, all end up exactly where they are suppose to go in their character arc.. Hence building the best character arc of any series ever made!
So how do they progress?
The idealist that becomes a realist, but manages to keep his passion (Martial)
The dreamer that becomes a dreamer with realistic prospects (Lilly)
The one that fears commitment and finds a productive and healthy way to run away from it (traveling the world as a journalist) (Robin)
The player that loves the game but wants someone to love him for who he is, finally gets the best of both worlds, plenty of women and one that is always going to love him i.e. his daughter (Barney)
And the unrealistic romantic who gets to live out his dream of the perfect "once in a lifetime" kind of love, twice (Ted).
Robin couldn't give him what he needed at the time, nor could she provide him with the children he so desperately wanted. Not because of her infertility, but because of her inherent fear of becoming a mother. So, in the end, he really did get the best of both worlds.
So did the mother have to die for this to happen?
It would be out of Ted's character, the character they spent 9 years building, to flip flop on the mother of his children. Ted really did find a happy ending in Tracy. So to let her live, would have just undermined the red thread of this series: faith has a plan, but you're not going to like it.
I was saddened when Ted and Robin couldn't make it work. I was even sadder that the show coupled her with Barney, but like all brilliant writing it had a purpose. Both Robin and Barney had never learned how to love selflessly, and in each other they realises that it was possible. For Robin, the realisation of that may have triggered her to long for the life Ted offered her a long time ago, and for Barney it meant he realised that his promiscuous ways was not just a coping system, he really did enjoy his life the way it was. In a few clips we see Robin confirming this theory to an extent by complaining to Lilly about her jealousy of Ted's happiness. We see it in the looks she gives him while he is with Tracy. During those clips, we are reminded that Ted was giving her the same looks while she was engaged to Barney.
So in a twist of faith, both received, in the end, what they had been longing for. For the first time in their lives, they were both at the right place at the right time for creating the relationship both of them longed for from the day that they met.
And it reminded all of us that relationships require a healthy dose of self growth and time. That it isn't over until it's over.
The fact that the creators and the writers of the show, shot the ending during the pilot, and ran with it, tells me that there is hope in the world. We aren't just served happy comfortable endings, but endings that can become happy if you just think about what we've seen.